An Unwanted Specter

by Johanna Kumpula

Ghost has been floating over my shoulder like some ill-willed phantom for over ten years. He haunts the little things I do, like checking if both the front and back doors are shut tight, locking the car doors exactly three times every time, or making sure my phone is off whenever I’m in a theater because inevitably someone is going to call. Ghost sits by my ear and sings, typically to the tune of a children’s lullaby, or obscure pop song, that doctor you most certainly saw is going to call with your nonexistent cancer results in the middle of Miles Morales trying to impress Gwen Stacy. A man is going to break into your car while you’re at work and hide in there until the sun sets and you leave, only to rob you at gunpoint for all the money in your wallet and you’re a college student, so it’s not much. If you don’t lock the door 20 times, your dog is going to break out and get hit by a semi-truck going 50 on a 25.

Ghost is harmless for the most part, though. He sits on my shoulder and plays with my hair while laughing at my inability to ignore his mutterings. He floats around my temples and questions my decisions with the lackluster of a teenage boy who doesn’t want to talk about his parent’s divorce, but they’re forcing him into therapy regardless. He’s all white and slightly see-through, like the stereotypical depiction of a ghost in the movies, except he looks like a normal kid, not nearly as scary in his physicality than his mentality. He has a tail that he can mold into legs if he wants, and it’s made of what appears to be wispy water vapor that tapers towards the end like the Genie’s in Aladdin. At some point, I grew older than him. He no longer appears to be an authority figure and is instead a child looking to get his way. His existence no longer threatens me.

Ghost liked to tell me secrets. He’d say to me things of little importance, like how the towel in the bathroom had to be folded correctly; otherwise, something terrible would happen. I don’t know what a small piece of fuzzy fabric would have done to me, but Ghost had a way of making illogical instances seem logical. If the sink’s handle isn’t centered precisely, you’ll flood the whole house. Is the toilet paper rolled so that none is hanging over the edge? Are you not sure? Well, you better check for the fourteenth time. Who knows what might happen if it isn’t flawless.

For a while, Ghost would only tell me tales attached to unimportant, inanimate objects. He didn’t care about life and death, but he eventually turned vengeful, forcing me to play out his diluted nightmares in my reality. I think he’s unsettled that he died young and I miraculously outlived him, so he forces me to act out every potential scene that led to his demise. He didn’t bother with how specific actions could affect me, only that I did them exactly how he said to, exactly when he said at a moment’s notice.

When I was a naive child, I would cut paper snowflakes out of construction paper, usually around the winter holidays. Something about the individuality of each one helped me convince myself that I was unparalleled but still somehow part of a broader picture. I would craft large red ones with intricate cut-outs, medium white ones with minimal detail, tiny green ones that would litter the house like glitter, and blob-esque blue ones that would usually end up at the bottom of the recycling bag. It was a thankless task, but Ghost enjoyed perfect parallels and straight lines. He would laugh, sarcastically tell me he liked my designs to lift my spirits. Ghost made me feel extraordinary like I was the only one who could do this when in reality, I was only distinctive because he was always there, sitting on my head banging his heels into the bridge of my nose. He doted on me and gave me wonderful new ideas for bigger and better snowflakes. He was a friend that never left and a nuisance all in the same, but I didn’t know that he wasn’t supposed to be there. I guess I loved him in some defiling way.

Then Ghost told me so stab my right eye out with the scissors. It wouldn’t hurt, only make it so I couldn’t see the obnoxious trash I was creating. In hushed tones, he told me what would happen. I’d pick up the scissors with my left hand clenched around the blades, wrap my whole right fist around the grip, turn them towards myself, and thrust the cutting edge into my socket. It won’t do anything, he’d say, perhaps it’ll mess up your depth perception and ability to see things after a certain distance, but really, what good does that do you anyway? I had to listen to him. What other choice did I have? No matter how many times I swatted or shoved him away, my hand would faze right through him without any indication of pain on his smirking, devilish face. This instance is right about when I would start crying. My mother found me sitting at the four-person dinner table, tear-streaked face buried in heavy hands as I tried to explain to her what had happened. Ghost disappeared when she was there but never failed to resurface. I wasn’t allowed to be near any sharp objects for years afterward, and yet this mysterious aberration was still a friend to me.

Eventually, like all kids, I would have to put an end to craft time to complete my homework. I appreciated the monotony of math homework and the difficulty of studying spelling. Occasionally, when I got tired of achieving question after question, I would doodle on the edges of my paper. I’d draw intricate mandalas or simple cubes. Wherever my inspiration took me, I would follow, much like I followed Ghost. I’d inevitably have to continue work on my homework and Ghost would finally rear his nasty head to tell me I was doing it wrong. No, don’t you see? If you leave any pencil marks on your paper, the world is going to end. What a silly girl, clearly you know nothing.

I would try to ignore Ghost. Of course, what else was I to do? But it was a boxing ring. In one corner, heavily weighed down by mental illness and self-depreciation, Johanna! And in the other, our heavyweight champion of the millennia, light on his feet, weighing zero pounds physically but over a ton mentally, Ghost! We’d move forward, tap fists, and the fight would begin. Except you can’t punch something that isn’t there, so I’d only wear myself out fighting him. He’d win by default.

Ghost would tell me to erase my marks and start again. And I would. And again. Okay. I’d erase so much I’d tear holes in my paper, but it still wasn’t enough. He’d tilt his head and look at me in the middle of telling me to start again; I wonder what would happen if you forced the pencil through the middle of your hand? I’d stare at him, confused. Well, it would ruin my hand and bleed everywhere, Ghost, you know this. You should do it. I did my best to ignore him, but he always followed me to the darkest, most secret recesses of my head. I’d have to stop working and leave the pencil on the table before I decided to test his theory for good.

I loved car rides growing up, as I think most children do. I used to imagine Shadow, the golden retriever from Homeward Bound, was racing alongside the car trying to keep up. Whenever we arrived at our destination, Ghost would talk to me with the voice of Don Ameche, revealing to me how much the dog enjoyed himself. It was sweet and ironically poetic. Inevitably, as I always expected he would, Ghost got tired of narrating my imaginary friend’s adventures. Running over mountain tops and jumping rivers was not enough for Ghost. He wanted me to participate. Ghost told me that the only way he would be happy with his job recounting Shadow’s escapades is if I were to join him. Open the door, he whispered. Just because we’re on a highway doesn’t mean you’ll die when you hit the pavement, maybe get a bit bumped and bruised but what’s it to you?

Again, I was able to shake Ghost off of my shoulder long enough to tell my driving mother to lock the car doors. Right as the locks clicked into place, I pulled the handle in an attempt to open the door. Later she would learn that it wasn’t me trying to exit the moving car, that it was Ghost trying to get me killed, but at that moment she was more concerned about the crying emanating from her back seat. Ghost giggled, called me names and said I was too weak to kill myself. He’d pat my hair and call me good, like I was a dog whose sole purpose was to entertain him. It seems as if Shadow and I had switched places. And yet, even after all this, I loved Ghost more than I could comprehend. He made me who I was. He was my best friend.

A friend who wanted to see me dead. I think this is in part because I outlasted him and also because he was sickly fascinated with haunting me. Being a child was supposed to be fun, but it is less so when the stench of death permeates everything you do. He liked to point at my veins and whisper directly into my ear which one would make me bleed out the quickest, or that if I took all the pills in the bottle, I would only go to sleep for a while. I guess to him, a while was merely a lifetime. I was somehow able to disregard his taunting, as tricky as it was. It was mostly my mother who helped me chase Ghost away for moments at a time. She would sit with her arms around my shoulders, my head buried in the crook of her arm, and her presence would force Ghost to wait out the hug in a distant corner of my mind. I don’t know if I was crying because I couldn’t find him or because I finally understood he wasn’t supposed to be there in the first place.

I first met Ghost due to childhood shock. Something happened that traumatized me enough to develop the illness that rode my shoulders everywhere I went. People liked to say I imagined him, that someone my age couldn’t be so affected and that he must’ve suddenly materialized for only a short period. He would disappear shortly, they promised. I guess people want to downplay others’ lives. For some reason, they like to think that in all actuality, they have it worse than everyone else. And I’d never say I had it bad. I had Ghost; a friend turned monster turned friend again. He wasn’t immoral, only misunderstood, much like I was.

I tend to get defensive when people talk about how they know what I’m going through, but they’ve never been diagnosed and their Ghost only ever seems to show up during spring cleaning. I’d scoff: you don’t know Ghost then, what you have is a need to clean after a winter of dust infecting your space. He doesn’t occasionally exist in the grime under your fingernails or the grit at the bottom of your book bag; he lives in every moment when you have to count the number of times you open and close your bedroom door or in the space between the egg carton, milk jug, and bruised apples. He doesn’t help you get work done or make sure you’re clean enough. Ghost makes you work harder for less, clean incessantly regardless of when you last washed; he’s an abnormality that inserts himself into situations he’s not needed in to meddle with the outcome. Regardless, I grew to love him. It was either that or hate myself.

Ghost was a part of me in every way that matters. I couldn’t blame him for my decisions any more than I could prove his existence. He haunted me until I became numb to the realities around me. I couldn’t force him to leave, and I wouldn’t even if I could. He was as important to me as the ocean in my eyes, the timbre of my voice, and the strength in my hands. Hands that simultaneously tried to shove him away and pull him closer. It was a toxic relationship I admit, but his poison was absorbed through my skin, pooled in my blood, and embedded itself in my DNA. Every part of Ghost was reflected in me.

Inevitably, I had to say goodbye to my long-time friend. I went to the doctor, and he was given a name. Obsessive-compulsive disorder sounded like a disease, an illness that would forever haunt me as Ghost did. Suddenly he was a thing I could learn about, and medication would hopefully quell his existence in its entirety. How do you say goodbye to something that made you who you are?

I did, say goodbye that is, at least for a while. Ghost was gone, no longer whispering into my ear or kicking at my jaw until I paid attention to him. It was like a hole had been cut out of my heart, but another was simultaneously being filled. I no longer had Ghost, the old friend, but I also was no longer troubled by conflicts of death. I had lost him but gained the ability to feel more than numbness. I was able to handle happiness again, at least until I did something stupid. I stopped taking my medication, weaned myself off of it because I felt controlled by drugs just like I did Ghost. While Ghost liked to use his influence to tell me what to do, the drugs induced a chemical reaction that told me how to feel. It was technically better than constantly hearing Ghost, but it didn’t feel any better.

This simple reason is why I feel fortunate; I was able to teach myself to smile, learn to laugh, enjoy moments of happiness. Not everyone can do this, and I wouldn’t recommend it, but stopping my medication was empowering. Learning how to be a jovial human without drug altercations or Ghost’s persuasion was a freedom I had never felt before. I was suddenly fully myself.

People learn to live with things like this, be it through medication, meditation, or mediation. Some methods of coping are better than others. I would never suggest cutting your meds as I did, but I also refuse to denounce a technique that worked for me. It might not ultimately make your Ghost go away, and in the back of your mind you may know that he’s still a part of you, but if you feel healthy and happy, then his presence won’t mean anything.

I have Person to blame for Ghost’s existence. Person was the cause of trauma; the reason Ghost moved into the musty attic of my head and took a seat on the La-Z-Boy of my shoulder. They would never admit to it. Who wants to be the reason depression and a Ghost that won’t stop screaming surrounds a child’s longevity? I have yet to decide how I feel about Person. While it’s true they instilled a mentality in me I’d rather never have had, Ghost became something I was strangely grateful for. Children want attention, and if I couldn’t get it from Person, I could always, without fail, get it from Ghost. Am I angry about this? I could say yes. I could tell you that Person messed me up so badly I’d rather have been dead before puberty, which is mostly true, or that I’d wish harm unto Person until they apologized for their transgressions. I could also say no. That I loved Person regardless of the choices they made that resulted in Ghost entering my life, which is also mostly true. I think what would be most accurate, is to say I don’t care. I dealt with Ghost the way I knew how and I’m angry he existed, but I love him, and I want him gone so terribly, but I’d miss him if he were no longer around. Person has no impact anymore, so why fret over what could have been?

Ghost comes to visit on occasions. I don’t miss him. I don’t love him anymore, either. I’m merely content with the impact he had on my life. When he does visit, he tries to sit on my shoulder and murmur into my ear like old times, but his voice has changed. No longer is he a vengeful spirit but is instead back to his old prankster ways. He likes to force me to check the locked door five times before I can leave the house. He pushes me to go outside right before bed to make sure no one is out who could hurt me. I found ways to deal with this. Yes, I had to check the door more times than most, but at least I know it’s locked. It’s cold and dark when I go outside, but I get a chance to look at the stars. He doesn’t control me anymore. I take his probing and turn it against him, so he doesn’t feel the need to visit for a while. Ghost is precisely that, a ghost.


  • Rani Malone

    Wow! This story was heartbreaking and inspiring at the same time. I appreciate your courage to share such deep and detailed experiences…Thank you

  • Gillian Craig

    It’s been a long time since I’ve read anything so raw and stunning. Stories like these, lyrical and true and heartbreakingly sad, are why I love to read in the first place. The incredible bravery you’ve shown in sharing this huge, personal part of yourself with the world is inspiring, to say the least. Whatever you’ve been through your soul is your own and you’ve refused to let anyone take that from you. I can’t think of anything more beautiful.

  • Mariaana Guerrero

    This is so real, raw and heartfelt. It literally brought me to a couple tears because I definitely can relate. Instead of Ghost, I say the devil because that’s my belief. I’m proud of you for seeking the help you needed. I know it’s definitely not easy to want to get help.

  • Lou Mei Gutsch

    Reading about youe experience made my blood redcells run cold. Very brave of you to share your story with Ghost. I’ve kind of had a similar experience. I was by myself in the basement of the restaurant I worked at. I was opening and I needed something so I went down stairs and I felt a hand on my back. I went cold and hot and back to cold really quick and I sprinted out of that place. Happened to me twice. Not as intense as your experience but man you are couragious to face your Ghost. Thank you for sharing your story.

  • Carmen

    I must say how courageous you are. You will help many, many others with your story. I love how raw and vulnerable this story is. I was able to relate in many ways. I to have my own ghosts. This story helps to make our issues normal and alright. It shows we are not alone and do not have to be as well. We are able to overcome anything we put our mind too. Thank you for sharing your story. Your ability to word things in a way others can relate.

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